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Raising safe, smart digital kids.

Controls help, but conversations protect. This hub combines kid-friendly cyber hygiene, step-by-step device settings and detailed social-media guides so you can build safety and trust at the same time.

8 golden rules to share with your kids

Short, memorable and written for children. Read them together, stick them on the fridge, and revisit them as they grow.

#1

Passwords are like toothbrushes

Don’t share them — not even with your best friend.

#2

Strangers online are still strangers

Even if they seem nice or say they’re your age.

#3

Feels weird? Tell a grown-up

You will never be in trouble for telling us.

#4

Ask before you download

Apps, games, mods and “free” things.

#5

Keep your location secret

No school name, address or live location in posts.

#6

Think before you post

Once it’s online, someone can screenshot it forever.

#7

Free stuff is usually a trick

Free coins, skins or prizes often steal accounts.

#8

Be kind online

Treat people the way you would face to face.

What to focus on, age by age

Start with tight controls and close supervision, then hand over responsibility as trust and skills grow.

Ages 5 – 8Explorers
  • Use devices in shared family spaces
  • Kids’ apps & YouTube Kids only
  • “Allowed websites only” filtering
  • Co-play and co-watch together
Ages 9 – 12Navigators
  • Ask to Buy / app approvals on
  • Contacts-only messaging & gaming chat
  • Teach privacy & password basics
  • Agree screen-free times (meals, bed)
Ages 13 – 15Socialisers
  • Messaging apps — set them up together
  • Talk about sextortion, nudes & peer pressure
  • In Australia, no Instagram or Facebook accounts until 16
  • Phones charge outside the bedroom at night
Ages 16 – 17Independents
  • First social accounts — turn on supervision
  • Shift from controls to coaching
  • Scams, fake shops and money mules
  • Digital footprint & healthy relationships

Set up iPhone, iPad & Android safely

Pick your child’s device and work through the steps. Tap any step to see exactly where to find the setting.

iPhone & iPad

Screen Time + Family Sharing give you powerful, built-in controls.

Family Sharing & Screen Time (built in — no extra app needed)

Step-by-step setup

  1. 1Set up Family Sharing with a Child Account
    Settings › [your name] › Family › Add Member › Create Child Account

    A Child Account links your child’s Apple ID to yours so you can manage Screen Time, approve purchases and share location. Children under 13 must use a Child Account.

  2. 2Turn on Screen Time & lock it with a passcode
    Settings › Screen Time › [child’s name]

    Manage it from your own iPhone, or on their device choose “This is My Child’s iPhone”. Use a Screen Time passcode that is different from the device passcode so settings can’t be changed.

  3. 3Schedule Downtime & App Limits
    Screen Time › Downtime · Screen Time › App Limits

    Downtime blocks everything except calls and apps you allow — perfect for bedtime and homework. App Limits cap daily time on categories like Games or Social.

  4. 4Set age-appropriate content ratings
    Screen Time › Content & Privacy Restrictions › App Store, Media, Web & Games

    Choose age ratings for apps, films, TV and books. Under Web Content pick “Limit Adult Websites” or “Allowed Websites Only” for younger kids.

  5. 5Require Ask to Buy
    Settings › [your name] › Family › [child] › Ask to Buy

    Every download — including free apps — sends a request to your phone, so nothing gets installed without you seeing it first.

  6. 6Control who they can talk to
    Screen Time › Communication Limits

    Limit calls, Messages and FaceTime to contacts only, and decide whether your child can edit their own contacts.

  7. 7Keep Communication Safety on
    Screen Time › Communication Safety

    Detects and blurs nude images in Messages, AirDrop and FaceTime before your child sees them and offers ways to get help. On by default for Child Accounts under 13 — make sure it stays on for teens too.

  8. 8Lock down AirDrop & Game Center
    Settings › General › AirDrop · Content & Privacy › Game Center

    Set AirDrop to “Contacts Only” or “Receiving Off” so strangers can’t send images. In Game Center, restrict multiplayer and private messaging to friends only.

  9. 9Prevent settings from being changed
    Content & Privacy Restrictions › Allowed Changes

    Set Passcode Changes and Account Changes to “Don’t Allow” so your rules stay in place.

  10. 10Review privacy & location
    Settings › Privacy & Security

    Turn off “Allow Apps to Request to Track”, switch off Precise Location for apps that don’t need it, and share location with family only via Find My.

Menu names change between app and OS versions. If a path doesn’t match exactly, search the setting name inside Settings.

Instagram, Facebook & WhatsApp — the parent’s playbook

If your teen uses these apps, set them up side by side. It’s the best way to explain why each setting matters.

In Australia, under-16s can’t hold social media accounts

Since 10 December 2025, age-restricted platforms — including Instagram and Facebook — must take reasonable steps to stop Australians under 16 having accounts. Messaging apps such as WhatsApp are not covered. The guides below apply to 16–17 year olds in Australia and to teens elsewhere. Check the eSafety Commissioner for the current list of platforms.

Instagram

Teen Accounts add built-in protections — supervision lets you see the bigger picture.

Minimum age: 16+ in Australia · 13+ elsewhere Teen Accounts + Supervision via Meta Family Center

Step-by-step setup

  1. 1Confirm they’re in a Teen Account
    Profile › ☰ Menu › Settings and activity

    Teens under 18 are placed into Teen Accounts: private by default, stricter messaging and the most limited sensitive-content settings. Under-16s need a parent’s permission to loosen these.

  2. 2Turn on Supervision
    Settings and activity › Family Center › Invite

    Either of you can send the invite. Once accepted, you can see who they follow and who follows them, who they’ve messaged in the last 7 days (not the messages themselves), set daily time limits and approve setting changes.

  3. 3Keep the account private
    Settings and activity › Account privacy

    Only approved followers see posts, Stories and Reels. Encourage your teen to only accept people they know in real life.

  4. 4Restrict who can message them
    Settings and activity › Messages and story replies

    Teen Accounts limit messages to people they follow or are already connected to. Review message requests together and keep this setting tight.

  5. 5Switch off location sharing
    Settings and activity › Instagram Map / Location

    Make sure live location sharing on the Map is off and talk about not tagging locations (school, home, gym) in posts or Stories.

  6. 6Filter comments & DMs with Hidden Words
    Settings and activity › Hidden words

    Automatically hides offensive comments and message requests. Add custom words (nicknames, insults) that are used to target your child.

  7. 7Limit tags, mentions & remixes
    Settings and activity › Tags and mentions · Sharing and remixes

    Only allow tags and mentions from people they follow, and turn on manual approval for tags.

  8. 8Use time limits & Sleep mode
    Family Center › Time limits · Settings and activity › Time management

    Set a daily limit and scheduled breaks. Sleep mode (10 pm – 7 am by default) mutes notifications overnight.

  9. 9Secure the account
    Accounts Center › Password and security › Two-factor authentication

    Turn on 2FA with an authenticator app and teach your teen never to share login codes — “vote for me” and “verify your account” DMs are common hijack scams.

  10. 10Know how to Restrict, Block & Report
    Tap ⋯ on any profile, comment or message

    Restrict quietly limits a bully without them knowing. Block stops all contact. Report sends it to Instagram for review — screenshot first.

Menu names change between app and OS versions. If a path doesn’t match exactly, search the setting name inside Settings.

Warning signs to notice

  • Becoming secretive or quickly switching screens when you walk in
  • Being upset, anxious or withdrawn after using their phone
  • New gifts, money, game credits or a second phone you don’t recognise
  • A new “friend” who is older, or who they’ve only met online
  • Avoiding school, friends or activities they used to enjoy
  • Using devices late at night or getting messages at odd hours

One sign alone doesn’t mean something is wrong — but it’s a good reason for a gentle, judgement-free chat.

If your child is being threatened or blackmailed

  1. 1

    Stay calm and reassure them

    Tell them they did the right thing by telling you and that it’s not their fault.

  2. 2

    Don’t pay and don’t reply

    Paying rarely stops the demands. Stop all contact with the person.

  3. 3

    Save the evidence

    Screenshot usernames, profiles and messages before blocking or deleting anything.

  4. 4

    Block and report

    Report the account on the platform, then block it.

  5. 5

    Report it and get images removed

    Report to the ACCCE or eSafety (in Australia) or your national hotline, and use Take It Down.

Our family tech agreement

Go through these as a family, tick the ones you agree on, and print it for the fridge. Rules work best when kids help make them.

Our family tech agreement

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